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Friday, 4 January 2013

Your Child And Sex By Praise Fowowe.

Praise, thanks for all your life changing tips, my story was exactly like the little girl that was made to suck the penis of that adult because that was what happened to me for so many years. Each time I was left alone at home my neighbor who was quite older would come and force me to suck his penis I hated it and couldn't tell anyone for so many years.
I started avoiding me but would follow me everywhere including getting into the bathroom to make me do it. Eventually I told my mum who reported him to his uncle but warned not to tell my Dad. Something had already gone wrong with me and no one noticed cos my cousin took over and started doing the same while my aunt was also introducing me to lesbianism. See a lot happened that messed up my mind. Parents can’t afford to be ignorant because there is a lot of incest going on in many homes. Sarah.
The question I would like to answer today is how do you know a child that is being sexually molested at this age?(1) Unnecessary attachments– when your child bonds unnecessarily with someone he/she has no business bonding with like the aboki that sells by the gate or the house-boy or a particular family member you may need to probe the closeness. (2) Observation- Check your child’s body and observe their body language when you talk about body parts. You might also want to probe when an extroverted child suddenly becomes introverted or when a child that has passed the age of bed wetting begins to bed-wet again. (3)Violent behavior – Sometimes an abused child exhibits this. Other clues include: Absent mindedness, Withdrawal and intermittent quizzing (did anyone do anything that he/she said you mustn't tell daddy or mummy?). It has been said that 1 out of every 4 girls and 1 out of every 6 boys would be abused before the age of 18 years. So far we have to look at what to teach ages 18 months -5 years about sex and am glad that parents are finally waking up to their responsibilities on sexuality education issues. Ages 5-8 in Nigeria at the moment sadly have become the ages of sexual initiation because in the last 3 years thereabout there has been more report of the sexual activities of 6 years old more than any other age grade. I have often told parents that children in this age range will engage you in serial questioning and if you don’t answer appropriately you leave them at the mercy of the society or the media.
This is the age most parents lose their children to predators because of over-concentration on the younger ones. If there is any age group you need to pay close attention to it is this age range so what do you teach? Because many children at this age battle with peer influence and has low sense of responsibility you would need to start them on a module called world changers(which comes with a song and a game) this will introduce them to stories of young people that changed the world like Thomas Edison, Wilbur and Orville wright, Jesse Owens, Bill Gates etc.
The goal is to inspire your child and taking them above negative peer influence. The song here is ‘World changers do not lie they tell the truth and hard working, they rise from failures to bring change to the world. I am a world changer I am the best and will not fail I have God’s power in me to change my world. I am a world changer just look at me and see I will do all I can to lift my nations high hurray!’
Praise Fowowe

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