ABSENTEEISM
How available are you as a father to your children and what level of emotional support do you give to your wife? The greatest challenge in our world today is the absence of real fathers. The fathers are no longer at home and with no father figure around the children are left at the mercy of the media and society. I know someone is trying to justify his absence with ‘I make my family comfortable’ but what you may not know is that your children prefer the gift of your presence to your presents. When was the last time you attended open day or PTA meeting? When was the last time you spent at least 2 uninterrupted hours with your children or wife without a TV/BB/IPAD/???.......interruption? . A lot of our men are even home as if they are not there because how you can sit at home as the lion of the tribe of your home where nobody can play with you beats me. If all your children is a school fee payer then you are not a father you are their benefactor; if all your wife sees is someone who sleeps with her then you are a sperm donor and not a true father. Fatherhood is a lot of responsibility and it is not something you can do by Bluetooth or in absential.
I know that many of us are quite busy but it is actually about the quality of time as against quantity of time. Are you that kind of father that sends your children to body houses so that they won’t distract you or to other people so that they can help you train them? How available are you for your family? We started looking at the qualities of a real father and so far we covered Our Father's dormain and the quality of his name. If your name is no longer hallowed you are creating a serious problem for your children. Most men who mess around fail to realize that sexual misbehaviour is a negotiation such that you are negotiating for sex with your precious name. There is nothing you can say to the girl after sex that can make her hallow your name except God himself restores your dignity and give you a new name. A good name is better than silver and gold and that is why you can't allow the small or big thing beneath your thighs control you. If you can guide your loins with truth you would have secured your good name. Is your name Hallowed or still respected? Never touch a girl that should call you uncle and don't solicit for sex from a girl that should be on your philanthropy list. Your name is everything don't mess it up. There are names that have been messed up for life cos of corruption or sex scandals. God's name is excellent in all the earth what reputation does your name carry? Is your name still Hallowed? There is no point going further than you have gone away from home. It is time to return like the prodigal and start rebuilding. If you honour your name and your reputation means anything to you, there are things you'd not be caught doing. The difference between your wife's body and the other woman is the soiled reputation you'd get when you are caught. How hallowed is thy name?
It has been said that where purpose is not understood abnormal use is inevitable. Do you know your purpose as a father? ‘Thy will be done on earth as it is done in heaven’ – This is a statement of purpose because will is the same thing as purpose and purpose is the reason for anything that exist. It is sad that a lot of our men have lost touch with the essence of fatherhood and their purpose as a husband. So instead of discovering their sphere of influence and having dominion there they have subjected themselves to all kinds of illicit behavior such that they are being dominated by bad habits. There is no way you can discover your will if you are not in touch with your manufacturer and that is why a working relationship is critical with God for you to discover the expectations over your life as a man. Have you asked yourself how you got to this planet earth and why were you created by the way? When I see the way a lot of men live their lives I see a man who has lost touch with whose he is and who he is because if you know who you truly are there are things you wouldn’t do so because they don’t know who they are they sacrifice God’s plan to make them global on the laps of a local girl. God operates by serving us and doing everything to make us comfortable and that is what He expects every man to do. To live to groom your wife and lead your family to become the best they can ever be anything short of this is absolute failure on your part as a man. How far can you go without God? Would you rather be a girl or guy man as against being a God man? Heaven is governed by God and it’s a place of peace same way your home must be a place of tranquility if you truly understand your purpose. God is invisible and yet we see all he does so stop parading yourself as a man. Flaunt your family and let’s see how well you have groomed them. What is your purpose?
I have seen too many tight guys with messed up families. The first company you must learn to take care of is your family and if your babe and children are out of place we need to check you man. I ended yesterday by asking our men to flaunt their families. If you are asked to bring your family for a beauty/emotional pageant how far do you think they will go? Or if God will determine your next level in life by your treatment of your family will you make it to that next level? The next aspect of the Lord’s prayer is give us this day our daily and what that means is that you are supposed to be a provider as a true father. I have seen men look good outside but highly irresponsible at home when it comes to provision. It is not your child’s responsibility to provide food neither is the work of their mother. Whatever a woman brings must be appreciated and should be to support and not for it to be the main source. I understand that men are going through a lot of crisis and that is why you must learn to be humble and appreciate your wife if she is the type that has been supportive. Listen to me if you are man who doesn’t provide a daily bread for your family you need to improve. There is no glory in waking up and walking up and down the house while your woman goes to work to go and slave for the family. It is not right to send your kids to their mother when they come to ask for their daily provision. There is a way to appeal to them if you don’t have but to shout on them and start nagging isn’t the right approach to life. That is why it is critical for every man to work as well as learn financial intelligence. If God can’t trust you with little He won’t increase your earnings and if you are fortunate enough to have a good job you’d still consistently make bad financial decisions. There is no glory n trying to deplete her savings true wasteful spending
It is a known fact that sometimes things could go bad for every man which could necessitate the woman becoming a bread winner but that shouldn't be forever. What is your attitude when your woman earns more than you? I often tell people that my wife was earning far more than me at the point of marriage but she knew clearly that I was neither lazy nor sleeping at home. She saw me toil and work hard at my projects daily sending proposals out and I was humble enough to assist and cook whenever I arrived before her. Not providing for your family is bad enough; but to maltreat a woman who tries to keep things together is criminal. I am not an advocate for women becoming rude to their men when you find yourself in that role because my wife was never rude for a single day because it has always been our money from the beginning and she became the custodian of every income that comes in when I realized her prudent side. So women shouldn't lord it over their men however men can't keep depending on their women. Listen, there is no way you will develop a relationship with the ultimate father God that you won’t treat your family right. I am not a super-man though as I have still have flaws I am working on however I am always willing to learn and get better. It is your attitude that determines everything. Many of our daughters won’t have become prostitutes if we had provided for them not just financially but emotional provision. The next line says ‘and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us’ I can’t stand men who keep a record of wrongs. You damage the esteem of your wife and children if you keep remembering the sins that was committed years before. Mistakes are bound to happen and what makes you an exceptional man is your ability to forgive and thrash the memory of the wrongs. How easily do you forgive an offence?
Forgiveness is a gift you give in advance as a father and by the way you must realize that your first child is not your son but your wife. The day you realize that there is your daughter in your wife your treatment of her would be different because I have seen men treat their wives anyhow; mess up other people’s daughters yet protect their own daughters. Hmmm your wife is your first daughter so treat her so. Forgive us our trespasses – what is it that your wife or your child has done that you have found so hard to forgive? There is an adage in my village that says a man that doesn’t get angry easily will have a lot of children. Many of us don’t know how well we would have secured our children emotionally if only they saw in us a friend they could confide in who wouldn’t judge or condemn them. If all you do in your house is issue commands as a man you are nothing but a military leader whose subordinates obeyed not out of respect but because he has the power of the bullet. A proof of your maturity as a true man is your ability to practice advance forgiveness. What has she done to you? She called you a fool right? What many of us fail to realize that whatever a woman calls you when she is angry isn’t an expression of her thinking but an expression of her feelings which is never a true reflection of her mental state. God gave you a broad chest so that you can withstand anything that she throws at you. That is why your foundation as a man must be very solid or else everything will get at you. It takes a lot of humility to handle a woman successfully as a man and that humility is what keeps your family together. This is not a license for every woman to begin to talk any how what I am addressing is a situation where a man fails to forgive a woman and keeps referring to past mistakes in your wife or children. Can you dare forgive?
If you find yourself in God’s position for a week what would you do with the whole world? I am sure you all saw that old movie of Bruce Almighty who experienced God for a few days and almost went mad. The more you learn from God the easier it is to run a home and create the most desirable family. The next line in the Lord’s prayer says ‘Lead us not into temptation but deliver us from evil’ Hmmm how many times have we led our wives and children into temptation by not being true fathers at home? It is hard not to be led into temptation if all you are at home is a lion. How often do you celebrate and appreciate your woman? When was the last time you took a second look at her and celebrated her looks? Familiarity they say bring contempt and that is the bane of many of us because you feel she doesn’t deserve your affirmations again having shared your bed for X years. Every woman wants to be affirmed and don’t kid yourself thinking there are no other men eyeing her even if their love isn’t sincere. How many times have we led our daughters into temptation by our treatment of their mothers and our inability to live as a good role model? A woman that is truly loved glows and finds it hard to misbehave. Why would she not fall for the guy down the road when you fail to nurture and treasure her? It is so shameful that loads of married women are now having younger lovers which I condemn in its entirety but how did she come to that kind of decision? It is difficult for a married woman to spread her laps but when she now begins to spread it at will something surely has gone wrong fundamentally with her. Many of us have grown as men and left our wives behind. Have you provided enough emotional support for your family or you are indifferent to their emotional needs? Who is leading your family into temptation? How well have you protected your family?
Lead us not into temptation and deliver us from evil – It is so easy for a man to be led into evil and the moment he is led into evil it is inevitable that he will lead his family into evil. How did we get into a level where a man sleeps with his daughter(which is becoming so common around us now) or how did we get into a situation where a man serves his wife around his friends and engages in 2some and 3some? How did men get to a level where she is your wife on weekdays yet you trade her for money every weekend? How a man puts pressure on his daughter to use what she has to fend for the family is beyond me. What manner of man are you? Your role of a protector is gradually becoming that of a tormentor. Today our men are challenged but one thing that is sounding clearly in my mind is that God wants to deliver our men from evil today. Where have you led yourself into and where are you leading your family to? Have you been led into adultery, perversion, cultism, corruption or drunkenness and drug addiction? Are you still being led by God or the devil has taken over through the strange girl beside you. You have been led into temptation and evil is all around you but one thing is certain and that is the power of God that is available to liberate you from the shackles that you have found yourself. If you have been captured by the mighty and looks like you are sinking deeper and deeper to day is the right time to free yourself because God has promised to contend with those that contend with you. What is that secret sin or struggles that you have been contending with. I have decided to tidy our 9th common mistake today by praying for our men because a lot of them really needed to be delivered from evil that is seeking to cut their lives short:
- May God deliver you from the evil of strange woman who scatters your soul and steals your joy and sanity
- May God deliver you from the hold on ancestral powers that cut the men in your lineage short and may the tendencies that destroyed them never find expression in your life
- May God deliver you from pride and stubbornness that makes you turn a deaf ear to the warnings from your woman and may it not become too late before you realize
- May God deliver you from the entanglement of masturbation and pornography that seeks to mess up your bedroom abilities and may God take far from you gay men who seek to turn God against you.
- May God deliver you from the snare of the fowler of addiction and secret sins that has held you bound and may God break the snare to aid your escape
- May God create in you the wisdom to run a home and become a true father and husband after God’s heart. May your memory be blessed after you are gone
- May the Lord restore the years you have wasted and bring you back to your original self created in God’s image.
- May the Lord fight your battles and rescue you from every powers that has held you bound.
- May the scale that has made you an enemy to the one that truly loves you fall off your eyes today and may the power that raised Christ from the dead quicken your mortal bodies and set you permanently free.
- May your hearts be stayed on God henceforth and your wife and children and may God keep you in perfect peace from now and all the days of your life.
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