Mistakes Women Make - Praise Fowowe.

Expecting him to understand your Sexual Un-responsiveness -
I have learnt over time that mistakes are made not because we thought we were wrong but because we were so sure we were right and that assumption which is the lowest level of knowledge has cost too many people. Why would a married woman deny her man of sex and expect him to understand because in her words ‘He is supposed to be a man of God’. I usually warn women never to take a man’s sexual urge for granted. We know you may not be up to it at all times but you must know how to say No and fix an appointment. No man would understand your sexual unresponsiveness not even a Bishop and I advice you get help if you don’t always respond to your spouse instead of subjecting the man to torture. Many of us have exposed our men instead of protecting them. While i don’t want to hold brief for men who cheat but I have realized most affairs are preventable.
That he is a man of God doesn’t rule out the fact that he is a man and that is why i often appeal to women not to get married if you haven’t made up your mind about meeting the sexual needs of your man.  I have met men who have been denied of sex for 8 months same as I have met women whose husbands only have sex with them thrice in a year(will address men after this series). A lot of religious women especially take their men for granted because u think the fear of God in Him should prevent him from cheating on you but you would soon find out how wrong you have been when your house-help or your kid sister begins to help your man. I have met loads of men lately(mostly Christian men) who have shut their minds to receiving sex from their women cos she is never ready and up to it and many of these women blame their job. Truth is you are cheating on your husband with your job cos your job is the one having sex with you and getting you tired for the rightful owner. An ancient Jewish Proverb says ‘Wisdom is the principal thing and with all your getting get understanding’ I have observed that with proper application of wisdom a lot of women would have won the battles they have lost in marriage. Wisdom sometimes sounds too foolish to the educated because it doesn’t follow what we call common sense but we forget that there is no sense that is common. I got a testimony from a client and this would fit into our next point. Sir, I must appreciate your counsel which never really made any sense to me the first time you suggested it because I couldn’t understand how it would solve the nude picture problems on my husband’s phone. I couldn’t bring myself to go the way of the ladies by taking a picture of my breast and sending to him as suggested by you. As a matter of fact I spoke to a few of my friends who told me to pick up a fight with him till he confessed where he got those nude pictures from but something in me compelled me to try out your counsel and I must confess it worked because when he got the picture I sent to him he buzzed me immediately to find out what I would do that knowing he was at work as anyone could have seen the pictures I sent. I didn’t respond to him until he got home and when he got home he asked what I really wanted and I told him I realized that my not sending such pictures must have been responsible for him going out to get nude pictures from other ladies. Mr. Praise I was shocked at the next thing that happened as my husband broke down and started weeping. He opened up on how he had struggled with pornography for months and how he had started flirting with different girls on blackberry. He deleted their contacts immediately and ‘un-passworded’ his phones immediately giving me the permission to check on him at any time as his accountability partner.

 Inability To Creatively Manage Crisis:
A lot of women have lost good cases because of immaturity or hasty decisions that is void of right counsel. When I tell married women whose husbands are cheating that they have no business going to pick up a fight with the lady their men are running after it is always a bitter pill for most of them to swallow. Because they feel it is better to go and pick a fight with the woman but I often tell them to discover what could be learnt from the other woman that if applied can bring back their men home. Or how do you ignore a man that is always talking you down when giving a piece of your mind looks like the right thing to do? I am not trying to justify men who cheat as I have reiterated severally here that there is no reason for any sane man to cheat on his wife however most of the women I have worked with have been able to apply the right techniques to win their men over. In my book strictly for wives – time tested secrets for keeping your man from the other woman I tried to expose some of the major secrets that most wives are ignorant of. Truth be told many of the things we need to do to keep our marriages are so simple yet we ignore them because we are too elitist and too ‘knowledgeable’ forgetting that academic knowledge or professional expertise doesn’t make up for your ability to creatively manage your home. I am amazed for example at how many wives respond to their bosses at work and pastors in their churches such that even when the ‘man of God’ hurts them they find a way to explain it away and move on as if nothing has happened yet practicing the same at home becomes an herculean task. Many of us will begin to win if we don’t allow what we can see or sometimes suspect cloud of sense of accurate judgment or response. Sometimes silence could be golden; other times you might need to confront the man creatively in other to win but other times you may just need to re-access the person you see in the mirror and seek to find out the areas you have fallen short with a view to rendering service that makes you become indispensable afterall the only corner of the universe that you have the capacity to change is your self-improvement. You have no reason making your good case look bad. Never take a decision without subjecting it to meditation and sometimes counsel because there is a strategy for every battle and you can consistently win where the right strategy is deployed. What works for some men may not work for others but often times I take my clients through sessions of detachment because there are some men who feel you don’t have any life outside them such that they intentionally rub it in to drive you crazy. At such times it might be a good strategy to ignore and make yourself happy. If you are reading this and your esteem and happiness has been submitted to someone else outside God and yourself I need you to get back to being a babe again. Today is the right time to start making yourself happy again. Discover what is truly most important to you and start doing it. Get into your best wears, exercise and turn on the music to dance. A lot of men who try to mess up their women’s esteem have been known to change the moment they sense detachment. Usually some resort to blackmail thinkn you have started an affair but don’t be deterred. Love yourself all over again and be at your best wt him. Wear your smiles and don’t let go of your happiness and dignity.The moment u feel go your body language changes. Don't die young woman.
Confession: I am a wise woman and i know what to do per time. I choose to be happy no matter what I see and my home is filled with joy all the days of my life
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