Punishing Your Man With Sex
I used to be a top management staff of a multinational and an associate pastor in my church but everything went down the drain and now I am left with nothing’ I was doing extremely well until my company was bought over by a new company and they insisted on changing the entire management team which I didn't have a problem with but the devastating thing was the way we were disgraced out of a company I labored so much to build with my colleagues’‘My wife was the happiest woman while I worked because I ensured my family visited 4 different countries every year and she had everything she wanted but all that changed as I could no longer cope with the standard of living I had set for the family and all my effort to get a new job has so far proved abortive so my wife became the bread winner and I must tell you that it would have been better for me to have died than be subjected to the inhuman treatment I receive from my wife’.
‘I had literary become the housewife and my esteem is gone because of the level of insult I have had to put up with her. From calling me a jobless man to giving a litany of woes each time she had to give money. The situation has gotten worse that she has refused us having sex in the last 10 months claiming that was my punishment for not having a job. In her words ‘A man who can’t provide should not be having sex’ ‘Sir I have really suffered and this has driven me into drinking myself to stupor and making out with call girls. I can’t really explain how I got to this level but I am in deep trouble at the moment, I have tried to end it all several times but can’t explain the force that keeps holding me back. Please sir I need your help.
How many times have you seen society women who have reduced their men to drivers and flat boys. Who calls d shots at the moment in your home and what is your excuse for denying him with sex.
I woke up one day to a serious outburst from a married woman who claimed her husband’s demand for sex was becoming excessive and I sought to understand her definition of excessive only to realize she would prefer them having sex either once a month to which I simply responded that no man would take that. I often warn singles ladies not to bother getting married if they wouldn't be willing to have sex with their spouses regularly. I have seen women lock up their ‘supply tank’ and creating artificial scarcity because they want to punish their men with sex to which I often tell them that they should always remember that the black marketers are ever present by the road side and one patronage by your man can even come back to haunt you as his infection can eventually infect you. The best time to deprive a man of sex is not when he has lost his job or when he has made a serious error of judgment. A man needs a cheerleader when he is doing well but needs a mother when he is doing badly. A lot of men feel less than men when they are caught in the web of inability to provide and you don’t want to complicate that situation by depriving him of sex. Every time a man loses at work or in the society he comes back home hoping to win in the bedroom and nothing devastates his esteem as his wife depriving him of sex. I quite understand that there are times a woman is genuinely tired and may not be up to but how you communicated that is also vital and never fail to communicate the next appointment so that he can look forward to it and make sure it’s a few hours away. So for example if you can’t meet up at 9 pm quietly whisper to him that he should please be patient and allow your body get some rest till 2 am. We have been on the 5th common mistake for some days now and I know so many women have got different experiences with their men. This particular mistake is not also to hold brief for lazy men because some men are actually lazy and have become irresponsible. I can’t stand a man who sleeps all day at home or goes out to play draft in the name of ‘I have lost my job’ and wants to be having sex consistently when the woman slaves to feed the family. Losing your job is not the end of the world there are other things you must be willing to do. At least show some effort and the women should bear with their men while he is trying to learn to stand on his feet again. Punishing a man with sex will always backfire. I know so many women have got different experiences with their men. This particular mistake is not also to hold brief for lazy men because some men are actually lazy and have become irresponsible. I can’t stand a man who sleeps all day at home or goes out to play draft in the name of ‘I have lost my job’ and wants to be having sex consistently when the woman slaves to feed the family. Losing your job is not the end of the world there are other things you must be willing to do. At least show some effort and the women should bear with their men while he is trying to learn to stand on his feet again. Punishing a man with sex will always backfire and it is not a path you want to thread and do remember that depriving your spouse of your body is a fraudulent transaction as the Jewish Philosopher Paul of Tarsus said ‘Never defraud yourself of each other’s body except by mutual consent’. If you wanted to be stingy with your body you shouldn't have been married. I am aware some men have deeply hurt their women but sex may not be the right way to get back at the man. Most of the sexual challenges in a lot of marriages are communication problems and there is no way bedroom negotiation can be effective when verbal communication is nonexistent. Couples need to create an open day in their homes which is a day you are free to talk about issues and resolve amicably. Above all don’t take the place of your man no matter what you earn as his wife or the position you occupy in the workplace. Learn to switch positions by moving from your masculine work mode back to your feminine home mode as a wife. Don’t be a man around your man.
Confession:‘I am a woman of honor and I receive the grace and strength from God to live up to my responsibility as his best friend and babe. I carry in me an excellent spirit
Praise Fowowe Website
No comments:
Post a Comment